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RynoatSecond

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Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 2, 2006 9:45 PM
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Hi everyone,

My name is Chris and I live in Tucson, Arizona. My username here at LutheransOnline is cactuscubfan. I am a 40-year old male, never married, still holding out hope(although it's getting tougher) that there is someone out there.

Have any of you tried any of the other services out there like eharmony? I must admit I was really disappointed with it. I had one match that I felt was going pretty well, but she backed out and it was back to the drawing board.

I don't know, I guess I just needed a place to vent on a Friday night. I hope everybody else is doing ok. Thanks for reading.

Chris
OceanLady

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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 2, 2006 10:09 PM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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HiRynoatSecond
I am Ocean lady and I am new here too looking for a companion at my age of 47. We you just would like to chat that is okay too. I have looked at some of the other sites out there in cyberspace and they are all looking for some money and if you don't have the money you can't talk to anyone. Good luck finding a good person. There are a few of us here. God Bless
Seasoned


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 3, 2006 9:05 AM   in response to: OceanLady in response to: OceanLady
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Ocean Lady (and anyone else) ... if you are looking for other sites... there is a free one here here << clickable link.
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Now, there is a fee involved, however it is voluntary. It is also reasonable... like $2/month.


Like here at LO, there are forums to participate in, a chat room if you like and a sort of e-mail to contact others. You can use it all ~ at no charge.


I participate both here at LO and at this other place.
pumpkinpenchant

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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 5, 2006 1:16 PM   in response to: Seasoned in response to: Seasoned
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well then, Seasoned, if there's a fee, technically speaking, it's not really free, than, is it? just observing ...
Veggie Goddess


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 5, 2006 2:59 PM   in response to: pumpkinpenchant in response to: pumpkinpenchant
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well then, Seasoned, if there's a fee, technically
speaking, it's not really free, than, is it? just
observing ...

good catch!
Seasoned


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 5, 2006 9:59 PM   in response to: pumpkinpenchant in response to: pumpkinpenchant
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PP ~ you need to check your reading comprehension.

Did you catch the word [b][u]VOLUNTARY[/u][/b]?

In other words ~ there is no fee if you choose not to pay. Even without paying you still have access to the forums, using the mail service, browsing profiles and contacting any member you choose.
pumpkinpenchant

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Posted: Jun 6, 2006 2:48 PM   in response to: Seasoned in response to: Seasoned
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on the contrary, my friend, i believe it's you who needs to check your communication/comprehension skills.
Windstar


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 6, 2006 6:04 PM   in response to: Seasoned in response to: Seasoned
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I am going to check this sight, as you mention that you can either pay a voluntary fee, or not. It sounds more reasonable, than any of the other sights some have mentioned, like eharmony. Hey, anything free is a great thing. I just wanted to check if it is a religious site, like this one, or not. TY for that info.
Seasoned


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 6, 2006 10:29 PM   in response to: Windstar in response to: Windstar
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Somehow I screwed up the html for the link I gave above, Windstar.

Let me try again...

HERE
Windstar


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 7, 2006 2:23 PM   in response to: Seasoned in response to: Seasoned
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Just looked at the sight. Looks free to me. I haven't been thru the whole thing, just wanted you to know your HERE worked. TY !
Seasoned


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 7, 2006 11:52 PM   in response to: Windstar in response to: Windstar
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Thanks Windstar.

I did the link cuz I wasn't sure about putting the name out on this board. I didn't want to step on any LO toesies!

As to the "free" issue ~ this whining about not really being "free" sounds like my 12 year old nitpicking on an issue.
pumpkinpenchant

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Re: Seasoned...
Posted: Jun 8, 2006 11:59 AM   in response to: Seasoned in response to: Seasoned
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just brush up on your communication skills and you'll be good to go. less chance of misunderstandings...you get the picture, eh? ;%
dakota rose


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 3, 2006 7:54 AM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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Just wanted to say...welcome to the boards, Chris.

I am a little older at 58 and yes I have tried a couple of the other sites. It kind of happened to me like it did you with eHarmony and when I refused the second set-up do to some personal reasons, the site would not give me another until the new month and payment...so I dropped it.

I was on Match too for a while and did find several nice guys and dated several, but none really wanted a relationship.:( :(

Good Luck in your search for that someone special.:) :)
God Bless all
nightowl


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 5, 2006 3:33 PM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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Hi Chris,
Have you made your self visible on Lutheran Singles connection? And then just the other day I ran across Big Church.com a singles matching site which says it is free? And of course hang with us here rain or shine as it is an edifying place where you will find lots of good folks...blessings, Steve[i][/i]
paul van minsel

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Posted: Jun 5, 2006 6:11 PM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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ryan, i tried eharmony too. i did find out that it was not for me. one response in three months. i thought i could use the money for something else. so i never renewed membership.

i am finding out that getting to know someone on the internet is difficult.

i live in an area where there is not many singles in the lutheran church. not many people in the lutheran churches for that matter in UP of Michigan it is pretty tough at times.

keep trying and stay the course.
dakota rose


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 5, 2006 6:18 PM   in response to: paul van minsel in response to: paul van minsel
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Welcome to the boards, Paul.

Enjoy the conversations and the friendliness...can you tell us a little about yourself?

Take care and Hang in there in the search...there are many out there.:) :)

God Bless all
Coffee Angel

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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 10, 2006 8:59 AM   in response to: dakota rose in response to: dakota rose
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Hi all.

Just had to chime in on this one.. I had tried Yahoo Personals and Match.com.

I had met a few folks.. but I truly have come to believe that this is not the way that it is to happen..

There are many weirdos out there.. I will say I am sure there must be nice folks too.. heck I am nice and was on there..lol! ...

Often I read the verses in the bible on singleness.. and thought man maybe I am one of those that are meant for singleness..

I have truly come back to my faith in the last year and have put it all in God's hands. I truly believe is something is meant for me it will happen.. in the meantime I have been busy doing what the good Lord wants me to do.. serve others and help others.

The Lord knows the desires of our hearts.. sometimes we just have to step back a moment be quiet and listen. ... (now that is hard for me to do!...lol! ).

I live in a rural area where it is difficult to meet nice single people.. let alone Christian singles..

Have a great week=end all

Coffee Angel
MaryB44

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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 10, 2006 1:40 PM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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Hi Chris and all, I am 44 and still hoping, so don't give up. I just tried the chat here last night and this is my first time on message. Haven't done anything but look at other single websites, a little spooked of them I guess. Really want someone with same values- Lutherans are few and far between here, much less single ones. May God bless all of you with the right relationship.
dakota rose


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 13, 2006 3:09 PM   in response to: MaryB44 in response to: MaryB44
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Welcome to the LoL site MaryB44 and mochabaer,

Most of us are a friendly lot and enjoy the banter and laughs.

Take care and May God Bless us all in our search. :) :)

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dakota rose
mochabaer


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 11, 2006 7:44 PM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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e harmony like any site gives back what you put into it... Putting too many limitations on your choices, really limits what kind of matches you get.. And not responding to someone on looks and/or items in their profile can make you miss out on someone special. I should know.

Just because the first one didn't work out, why give up so soon?...

You would be surprised who can find... and nothing happens overnight.
Smiley1965


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 12, 2006 7:16 AM   in response to: mochabaer in response to: mochabaer
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Hello to all of you newbies! Mary I saw you on chat the other night (I've only been able to get on there for a week or two); nice to have all of you here. Best wishes to all of you in your searches, and we'll enjoy the company around here.
PastorPaul


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 22, 2006 9:56 AM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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Chris,

I believe I posted this on another thread, but I found a mixed bag with eHarmony. I received a lot of matches in my first month; which totally surprised me. But many of the women didn't respond at all; some were already dating, but left their profile active; some did a quick "Thanks, but no thanks"; some ran when they read of my health problems, others when they saw my picture.

Two of my matches gave me hope that the system did indeed work. I met a wonderful woman just 90 minutes away and another one 6 hours away. I had a date with the closer woman and we agreed that we could probably be great friends, but our family responsibilites would probably prevent us from going further with the relationship. We keep in touch and are indeed good friends.

The woman who is 6 hours away was not happy with eHarmony's few matches, and the poor quality of the matches she did get. Her first complaint was answered with, "You just have to be patient." She made it clear that she had been patient for a year and still was getting few if any matches. A second phone call to complain about the lack of matches brought a more understanding rep. He promised to hand pick a few matches, but he only picked one... me.

From the moment we received word of our match, Susan and I kept going back back to each other's profiles; having trouble believing that eHarmony could have done such a good job of matching us. We were at Open Communication the same day we were matched, e-mailing directly the next day, and talking on the phone another day or two later.

Susan and I have been dating since March, but because of distance we have to do weekend long dates once a month. Having to cram a lot of dating into just 48 hours or so, combined with the wisdom and maturity that comes with age, has caused us to get to know each other better than we probably would if we were dating every week. Our relationship is growing and things look good.

PP
welldone

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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 24, 2006 7:04 AM   in response to: RynoatSecond in response to: RynoatSecond
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Hi Chris, Yes, I've tried a few of those other sites, like e-harmony and big church. Not many matches on e-harmony and to be honest I never even put a photo on big church, just like to browse the pros. Lately my daughter has introduced me to myspace. There are a few good christian groups you can join to chat and meet friends, and hey, you never know....

A while back I tried christiancafe.com. You should check that one out. Occasionally I go back there to see how many are on from my area.

PastorPaul, Thanks for the encouragement, it's great to hear of a potential success story! Thanks for sharing!

Have to go check my profile on LO, It's been a while since I've been here, time for an update...
PastorPaul


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Re: Starting Over....again
Posted: Jun 26, 2006 2:18 PM   in response to: welldone in response to: welldone
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PastorPaul, Thanks for the encouragement, it's great
to hear of a potential success story! Thanks for
sharing!

More and more it looks like it is indeed going to be a success story!!

PP